For a lack of better word at the moment, let’s call them Cribbers (PS: I wish this was Roam)
These are the people who will find something wrong with people, situations, systems, culture, anything really.
If. I was to box them in one line, these are the people who are always on the losing side because of something external.
Symptoms of a cribber:
- Excuses
- Talking about other people more than themselves, their purpose, or about ideas
- Big Imposter syndrome
Opposite end of spectrum is:
- People with a high sense of agency
Of course, that needs to be balanced too. But, generally, having a high sense of agency is better than being a Cribber.
Spectrum: Check if complainers are doing something about it. Is the complain about a person, place, thing, situation or a systemic complaint? Nelson Mandela was a complainer. So was Gandhi. Can’t say that about most complainers around me right now. They just want some other person to change so that their life will be easier.
Why you shouldn’t be complaining? Put together well by Andrew Kirby